I have often been discouraged by the word “hustle.” While growing up, it was touted to me when I was “lolly-gagging” and even recently, I have pondered how and why everyone is in such a rush.
I recall a “Shawshank Redemption” scene where the character, Brooks, writes, “The world went and got itself in a big damn hurry.”
Through my adulthood, I have realized that words and perception of words, shape our reality. The word, “hustle,” alone can mean many different things to different people. Lately, it has been thrown around as a “buzzword” of a quick way to become successful.
Today, I am going to expand on how-to hustle in a graceful and authentic way and how the word can be used as a motivating tool to expand personal possibility with work, joy and everything in your life.
Be honest with yourself. Why this is important: when you are spending your life doing anything, it is best to know you are allocating all your energy to that one thing, without distractions. “How you do anything is how you do everything.”
How honesty works with working: being honest with your intention and clearing mental space is the trick to being present. Putting away the to-do list, the “vacation” list and most importantly, the comparison list. Being honest with yourself about why you are doing something is important: is it for money, for joy, for maybe both, does it serve you?
Honesty with oneself leads to understanding. Once you become clear of the “why” you can dive into the “how’s” and begin unraveling and understanding yourself and your values. Understanding yourself can lead to setting and carving specific time to do things you enjoy. (I highly recommend). Once you set aside things of enjoyment, it allows space and attention to be dedicated to other tasks that would have derailed your ability to “present” (especially if you felt the lack of opportunity of the “joyful” moments in your life that could distract you from work. I think I mentioned all those “lists” in the excerpt above. Let me express the importance of putting away your comparison list again. Do it for you!)
Sustainability ties hand-in-hand with honesty. When you are honest, have integrity, with oneself, your decisions to devote energy to an activity, will be purposeful. Sustainability stems from the ability to continue to do something throughout time. The thing about honesty, integrity and honing the ability to be present, the only moment you focus on, is the present. When that is the case, sustainability comes naturally as the future is not yet written. When the future is not yet written, anxiety about the future dissipates and the fear of commitment falls away. Most things fail due to fear of failure, or the future, rather than aptitude or ability. Therefore, activities and work becomes sustainable when you take bite-size pieces of your time by being honest, understanding your values and tendencies, and remembering to stay present by not getting too far in the future where overwhelm lives.
Trust yourself and others. How many times have you been burned by someone? How many times have you burnt someone? The thing about trust is many people do it the only way they know how. They trust people to do unto them what they would do. Ah, the golden rule. Here’s why that approach could use some “pivoting.” (Pivoting is when you’ve hit a wall doing something a continual way. Pivoting is about approaching something in a new way that gets a slightly different result.)
Here’s the new approach: instead of assuming that by bestowing trust upon someone, that they will conduct themselves the way you would: trust that person that they will conduct themselves the way they have before unless they communicate otherwise. When people tell you something, trust them; don’t be quick to project your own interpretation of what you “think” they mean. Allow them to communicate what they really mean.
Communication is the biggest tool to getting what you want. And I don’t mean that in a naive, spoiled way. I mean that in anything and everything you do. Listening is key as it allows others to be heard and for you to process how your wants and needs align with others. An example may stem from the fact that you and your friend ultimately want more time together. By allowing your friend to communicate his or her’s to-do list, it allows them and you to prioritize accordingly, minimizing conflicts both in scheduling and miscommunication.
E: Excitement and Enthusiasm
Follow your excitement and enthusiasm. If you are anything like me, where those emotions stem fairly easily, begin to shift those feelings toward the activities that have lost it. It sounds counter-intuitive; however, I promise, it will not lead you astray. It’s like any relationship. It begins as a honey-moon phase, it becomes “known” and “tried and true” and if not careful, it can loose its luster. And at the “known” and “tried and true” phase, try sprinkling that excitement and enthusiasm upon the routine. Because, you are responsible for half of the emotions of any relationship, so why not provide genuine excitement and enthusiasm toward each one? If you feel a blockage, identify where it’s stemming from, listen and be honest with the other entity in the relationship, and remember not to project your own way of doing things as the only way.
Life can be challenging and it can also be highly fulfilling. I expanded on how to Hustle in a way that feels good to me by using the letters H-U-S-T-L-E as gentle reminders of how to interact with the world and shift a negative connotation formed in my past. I highly recommend to anyone who is having an issue with a word and what it means – to break it down and create your own Excitement and Enthusiasm around it.
Love and light,