Let’s me tell you about an fear-filled situation. Our lovable pet dog turned vicious one day and bit my sister and I when we were children. The dog chased us around the house. It was foaming at the mouth. My sister and I ran and screamed in fear. Our little legs did not outrun the dog. One by one the dog caught us and bit us. The fear, the bite, the rabid dog.
Bending the needle in fear
What happened next, were actions steeped in fear and justifiably so. A bite from a rabid dog requires a series of rabies shot around the navel. I remember that first visit for shots well. Why? Because my dear sister fought the providers to avoid the injection. Her struggles and the determination of the providers caused the needle to bend. The needle bent in her stomach. Everyone felt more fear. My sister and I got our series of injections.
Why did that memory come up? I was thinking about situations real or imagined that bring up a feeling of fear.
Of course every time I saw a dog after that experience, I held my breath and made decisions. The decision to stand my ground or to run in fear. Or, to pet or not to pet. A decision to ignore the dog or to look directly at the dog. The decision that helped me the most was my decision was to breathe!
Just because you feel the fear doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Do it afraid.~Joyce Meyer.
Pillow: a reminder of less fear
My two children are animal lovers and dog owners. I’m glad that I didn’t waste any time passing down a fear of dogs. The fear was short-lived and did not become a phobia. My dog’s name is Pillow.
Pillow walked into the school with matted hair. Her coat filled with burrs. She “peed” in the classroom. Not many wanted to touch her. As soon as I saw her I knew she was the perfect dog. Staff members helped to make that a reality by helping us avoid the ‘dog police’ when they came to pick her up.
Some funny things about Pillow. She pauses to stretch when called. You have to wait for her to do the downward dog first. She eats salads, cooked vegetables and nuts. Pillow shows no fear near large dogs.
Pillow does show fear and may trembles if you blow in her face. If you make weird noises. If you try to kiss her. She has trained me to pet her when she nudges my hand.
Pillow is an important reminder of a time that I was able to overcome a fear. This is important to me because of any current fears, imagined or real.
Compassion and Less fear
Try having compassion to reduce your fears. Have compassion for yourself as a fearful person. Try to have compassion for whatever you fear.
Increase your compassionate thoughts by using affirmations. Watch videos and read uplifing books to change your fearful thoughts and feelings. Exercise by walking or doing yoga. See a counselor.
Get a dog to walk with, talk to and watch their silly antics.
“Why does watching a dog be a dog fill one with happiness?”~Jonathan Safran Foer