“New year, new you.”
I can’t stand this phrase. Sure, it sounds catchy, but what’s wrong with the old me? What’s wrong with who I am now? To me, “new year, new you” sounds as if we need to dismiss our entire being. How is that healthy? Why should we wait for a holiday when it comes to setting intentions?
SCREW THE CALENDAR
Does your list of New Year’s resolutions look like the picture above? That may not be a bad thing.
Goals are personal. According to Forbes Magazine, less than 10% of New Year’s resolutions are achieved. Setting intentions can be a fun tradition, but they mainly fail due to a heightened level of pressure and impulsive decisions. How do we change that number? Setting intentions can be done any day of the year. Maybe that’s why every year I hear more people say, “My New Year’s resolution is to not make resolutions.”
(It’s still considered healthy to use a calendar to measure your progress, whatever keeps you motivated.)
RESPECT THE PROCESS
Sometimes stuff comes up, and life feels interrupted. Sometimes becomes all the time. We get thrown off track, and that intention of where we were headed suddenly feels out of reach. Then what? It’s always something.
We need to learn to face ourselves with a level of love and respect at all times. Learn to love unconditionally (ourselves and others), and find respect for the journey of personal growth. Many elements of personal growth are not something we can set a timeline for.
Sometimes we want a change for others more than they want it for themselves. To ensure our intentions are healthy and effective, asking questions can help us decide where to start.
Questions to ask yourself when SETTING INTENTIONS
So whether or not you are making resolutions, I hope you have a healthy and prosperous 2017. When the time is right for you, the list below may be used as a tool to pin point your intentions and goals. Maybe this is cheesy, but the good ‘ol’ 5 W’s come into play here.
*Note: This is in no way a complete list. Add your own questions to help set yourself or someone else up for success!
- Who are you setting this intention for?
- Who does it affect?
- Who do you want to help?
- Who do you want to be like?
- Who do you want to spend more time with?
- Who do you want to hear?
- Who do you want to be heard by?
- Who has inspired you in your lifetime?
- Who has supported you in your life?
- Who do you want to share your life with?
- What are your most basic needs that you struggle to meet?
- What are your wildest dreams?
- What are your goals?
- What is the first goal that will bring you closer to another goal?
- What are your motives?
- What is the deepest root of your intention?
- What has worked for you in the past?
- What did you learn about yourself when something worked out in the past?
- What works for you now?
- What didn’t work for you in the past?
- What did you learn about yourself when something didn’t work out in the past?
- What doesn’t work for you?
- What patterns do you see in your life?
- What is limiting you?
- What do you want to learn about yourself?
- What do you want to experience?
- What is something you have never done before?
- What are you afraid of?
- What inspires you?
- What feels missing in your life?
- Where is the space you feel most comfortable?
- Where do you feel least comfortable?
- Where are you most productive?
- Where do you see yourself in the future?
- Where do find your inspiration?
- Where do you make compromises?
- Where do you feel stuck?
- Where were you during your happiest memories?
- When will you begin?
- When does your dream feel like it has come to a stop?
- When are you making it happen?
- When do you feel distracted?
- When do you feel focused?
- Why is this intention or goal important to you?
- Why is this intention or goal important to others?
- Why not?
- How will you practice your intentions?
- How will you make progress toward your goal?