Ahhhh. The New Year. A fresh start for everyone. Sure it’s just another day on the calendar. But when you reflect back on your life, you measure things in years. Good and bad. The year itself resembles a huge portion of your life. You can categorize a specific year simply by reflecting on the events. Those events are what make or break a year for you. For example…
- In 2011, I got divorced. It was a dreadful, grief stricken year filled with feelings of hopelessness. When I think of 2011 I categorize it as a very difficult, heartbreaking year.
- But in 2015, I not only completed my Bachelor’s degree, I also moved to Austin. It was a year filled with scary changes, huge accomplishments and growth. It was overall a life changing year and major turning point for me.
Each year we set out to make great changes. Having ideas in our head of what we want to do to make ourselves a better person, gives us purpose. I set my goals every year just like everyone else but we also have to make room for unexpected things. You may have things thrown your way that change your path. Big and small. It forces us to grow and figure out more suitable ways to find our purpose. These changes can push our goals in a different direction. We cannot plan out our path but we can adjust.
Growth is difficult. Change is hard. Without our glorious faults and desires for change, we wouldn’t be who we are. My ideas may be different from your ideas, but that just means we are pursuing our own personal paths. But no matter how different they are, fear can never be a part of our journey. Sure it will be there, but it cannot make your decisions. My hope for you as you begin this New Year with a fresh start, is that you do not let fear override your desires. What are you holding back from?
What does my 2016 look like? I hope to grow more as person. I hope to put in more effort to helping others. I hope to find things I am so passionate about that I change my “normal” course to chase them. I want to move my body and feed it real foods. I want to feel confident. How will I accomplish these things? Charity, yoga, books, writing, hot tea and naps will be my starting point. Fear has no place in my life if I want to accomplish things and grow as a person.
What does your 2016 look like? How will you get there?
From Elizabeth Gilbert’s latest and greatest book Big Magic, this letter made me laugh when I first read it. But now I read and re-read it only hoping I can teach myself this concept of fear. I leave you with this to start out your New Year and hope you reach for things you simply think you cannot do.
Dearest Fear: Creativity and I are about to go on a road trip together. I understand you’ll be joining us, because you always do. I acknowledge that you believe you have an important job to do in my life, and that you take your job seriously. Apparently your job is to induce complete panic whenever I’m about to do anything interesting-and, may I say, you are superb at your job. So by all means, keep doing your job, if you feel you must. But I will also be doing my job on this road trip, which is to work hard and stay focused. And Creativity will be doing its job, which is to remain stimulating and inspiring. There’s plenty of room in this vehicle for all of us, so make yourself at home, but understand this: Creativity and I are the only ones who will be making any decisions along the way. I recognize and respect that you are part of this family, and so I will never exclude you from our activities, but still-your suggestions will never be followed. You’re allowed to have a seat, and you’re allowed to have a voice, but you are not allowed to have a vote. You’re not allowed to touch the road maps; you’re not allowed to suggest detours; you’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you are not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, my dear old familiar friend, you are absolutely forbidden to drive.